Why Mediate?

I usually begin mediation sessions by asking a couple why they are coming to mediation.  This helps people to remember what kind of process and outcome they are hoping for - as well as lets me know how much they know about the process.

I met with a new couple last week, and when I asked them this question - I was blown away by their answers!  In 5 minutes, they described the most idealistic mediation process, and highlighted (what I see as) the benefits of mediation.  They said:

• they want to stay amicable
• mediation is less costly
• mediation would allow them to maintain good communication
• makes sense because they have a son
• not a lot of contentious issues between them - why enter a process which might create conflict?
• avoid a war-like session
• get guidance and counsel from neutral, objective persons
• won't waste money
• more antiseptic - won't create big wounds
• more transparent - by starting discussions in the room together, they would explore information together, and decide together

So beautiful!